The Obvious

Now that you see where I am coming from when I say that technology in general has ruined relationships, I can talk a little bit about what this whole page is supposed to be about. We all know what these spyware apps were made for and it is no secret. These were developed so programmers could make a fortune off of insecure partners, which very well may be warranted by the way, and those who want to know what their significant others have been up to and who they have been talking to.

I have personally never used any of these things because I think they are horrible and is just one step closer to eliminating any sense of privacy, but I definitely have some friends who have them installed on their phones so they can spy on their girlfriends.

Want to know what the best part of that is? I do not have 1 friend that has found anything to incriminate their significant others which is what surprises me the most. If you feel the need to have some of this software I am assuming you are pretty sure that your partner is cheating on you or something very obvious, which I do understand in some sense. But if you don’t find anything shady within a couple of days I think you can be safe to assume your fears were unwarranted and you can uninstall the stuff immediately.

I don’t know what these guys are hoping to find and I think it is a way for them to find what they kind of want to see, in a weird way. Why else would you be so determined to use this??

Oh What Could Have Been??

Yesterday I talked about how I think all these smart phones and just technology in general has had detrimental effects on relationships for a number of reasons, and today I am going to talk about the more obvious reasons things like these spyware apps can be absolute life ruiners.

I really hate the fact that between facebook and the internet you can pretty much look up anyone that you have known in your life and with the click of a button reach out, and see what could have been. Luckily for me I have been in a very healthy and perfect relationship with my girlfriend so this really isn’t something that I have to worry about anymore, but from personal experiences that I am not proud of I can testify just how easy it is.

Back when I was a dirtbag, I will be the first to admit that I have definitely looked up a few women from my high school and reached out to them through Facebook and it could not have been easier. One of my ex-girlfriends from high school was living in the town that I lived in and I made the attempt to patch things up and grab some dinner with her. Long story short we got dinner, then drinks, and I will spare you the details but we ended up back at my place at the end of the night.

Great, right?

Wrong. She decided to wait until the morning to tell me that she had been dating someone for the past 5 months and that we need to keep this under wraps. Needless to say that was the last time I have spoken to her.


Kind of going off the same topic as yesterday in regards to privacy being over, I think things like these spyware apps are a huge reason relationships seem so difficult to find and maintain these days. I think this is the result of a number of different factors and it really is a shame. The way things are going I really only see things getting much worse and it is terrifying. I have no idea what I would do if I didn’t have my girlfriend Amanda already. I could never imagine entering the dating scene again with all of this stuff going on and just getting worse by the day, making access to someone’s private information and space easier than ever.


I think it is pretty obvious why things like these droid spyware apps can be detrimental to relationships, but I think the ease and the absolute necessity of cell phones in itself is hurting relationships. Back in the day during our parents generations and before that you had to go through A LOT to get in touch with somebody.

Could you imagine having to call someone’s house phone just to talk to a girl that you have a crush on? Think even before that, when there were no phones and what you would have to do to make a relationship work. Now it’s as easy as reaching into your pocket and immediately contacting any person you know and you can do so with as many people as you wish. It is far too easy to reach out to people and I think it is hurting relationships.